discover and develop your strengths

coreclaritybannerI have a new passion. No doubt about it. I love coaching people through discovery of their talents and strengths. Absolutely love it.

Successful people
understand
their talents and strengths
and build their lives upon them.

My husband and I attended a CoreClarity training last spring. That week prepared us to explain Gallup StrengthsFinder results for individuals and groups. This summer, we had numerous opportunities to coach family members, individuals, and couples.

Every time we talked through top talents with people, I watched eyes open wide in recognition, hearts soften with greater understanding, burdens of frustration and self-condemnation wash away, and hope reappear in the soul. 

It was amazing actually.

It is an encouraging experience to grow in self-awareness and self-acceptance, but it is even more powerful to grow in understanding and appreciating the important people in our lives. 

Successful marriages (or teams)
dont just accommodate differences in each other,
they capitalize on them.

If you have never done the StrengthsFinder assessment, I highly recommend it. There are specific assessments you can choose for adults, college and highschool students and even middle school students. After you receive your top five results, find someone trained in CoreClarity to review your results with you. You can do this for yourself, as a couple, for your family, or in a seminar format for your whole team.

You will learn :

  • why it is more important to develop your strengths, rather than focus on improving your weaknesses
  • how to develop your talents into strengths
  • to correct the myths that everyone thinks the same way we do or that everyone has the same talents we do plus what we see in them that we do not have
  • how your top talents affect each other and how your combination creates the unique you
  • how different talents intensify, combine, or collide with other talents
  • how talents understanding helps build and repair relationships, improves problem solving and teamwork
  • how to use your talents to enhance your career

You might also want to attend a facilitator training so you can coach others!

Do you already know your top talents? How have you applied that knowledge to your life and relationships?

Please leave me a comment if you have any questions about CoreClarity or StrengthsFinder. I’ll be glad to help in any way that I can!

pushing through the mountain

mountainsexhausted.

stressed.

anxious.

overwhelmed.

can’t breathe.

no end in sight.

Ever felt that way?

That is how I have felt the last two weeks. The last two weeks were an accumulation of the start of this year… normal work and immediate family responsibilities, but add to that, a serious family illness with death as the final outcome requiring out-of-state travel to the memorial service and the search, purchase, move-in, and furnishing of a new home… and assignments for two MA classes to top it off!

My professors basically gave me these last two weeks to catch up on the semester’s work because I had fallen so far behind. Otherwise, we were looking at dropping the classes or taking an extension into the summer… neither of those sounded like a good option to me!

As a StrengthsFinder identified “Achiever”, I did not want to settle for less than pushing through the mountain and getting to the other side… where rest and tranquility awaited me (I can dream, can’t I?).

However, as I pushed hard – hours with my nose in the books, more hours on the computer, turning down invitations to fun events, ignoring the piles all around my new house, sleeping 4-5 hours a night, getting impatient with my husband… I began to resent the effort.

I began to question why I really cared. I began to doubt my ability to get through the mountain.

Have you ever been there? Have you wanted to give up?

Tonight I am celebrating… and reappearing here 🙂 because I have read the three books and 15 scholarly articles and written the three papers that put me… officially caught up with my MA work! The piles are still on the floor. My husband has been gracious and forgiving. I feel tired still. But for now, we will celebrate a few moments of freedom! And I will surely sleep well tonight – maybe for even a few extra hours.

Sometimes the mountains do seem insurmountable. Sometimes they stand in front of us for many more than two weeks. Sometimes it is appropriate to give up the climb, or go around, or find a different path. This time I just pushed hard, and I got through. I am grateful.

What mountains are you facing? How do you take on the mountains in your life?

conoce tus fortalezas

Esta semana tuve la oportunidad usar varias “tests” que me ayudan a evaluar mi personalidad y mis preferencias. MyersBriggs  (ESTJ)StrengthsFinder  (Triunfador, Aprendiz, Input, Enfoque, Relator/Inclusión), BirkmanDISC (I alto)SHAPE, y los tests de los Dones Espirituales son sólo algunos de los recursos disponibles para auto-conocimiento. También ayudan a analizar dinámicas de grupos o equipos. Aprecio estas herramientas para un crecimiento continuo.

¿Sabes cuáles son tus fortalezas?

He tomado muchas de estas valoraciones durante los años. Algunos de estos tests los he vuelto a tomar con resultados muy parecidos cada vez. Sin embargo, la atmósfera no era la misma cada vez. En ocasiones pasadas, los resultados del perfil se sintieron como una maldición; trajeron juicio y acusación de los miembros del equipo; dieron lugar al conflicto en el equipo y nada de esperanza. Esta vez fue alentador ver los resultados, divertido compararlos con mi equipo, y ayudaron a ver cómo podemos trabajar juntos y complementarnos unos a otros en proyectos y asignaciones. Creo que he madurado a través de los años y puedo aceptarme a mí misma y apreciar a otros mejor.

¿Alguna vez has sido incomprendido o criticado debido a tus fortalezas? ¿Aprecias la diferencia en otros?

La facilitadora esta semana explicó un tip muy útil: el test es similar a una costilla de una sombrilla – ayuda a sostener entendimiento, pero es incapaz de ofrecer el panorama de la identidad completa. Aunque es de utilidad conocer mis áreas fuertes, puede ser que algunas veces necesite trabajar fuera de esas áreas. Cuando esto sucede, mi actitud y flexibilidad también dicen mucho acerca de mí (mi carácter). Si bien es estratégico trabajar en mis fortalezas, no puedo negar mis áreas débiles o usarlos para excusar mi irresponsabilidad o falta de resultados.

¿Qué estás haciendo para desarrollar tus fortalezas? ¿Estás consciente de tus áreas débiles y sus efectos en otros?

He encontrado muy útil tener un coach o mentor que me ayude a desarrollar un plan para mejorar mis fortalezas. Escojo una o dos áreas fuertes para un desarrollo adicional y un área débil. Después identifico cosas específicas que puedo hacer para trabajar en esas áreas. Algunas veces es de ayuda considerar si haya alguna raíz de actitud o experiencia más profunda que puede tener influencia. Mi coach revisa mi plan, viendo si es realista y después se reúne regularmente conmigo para ver mi progreso, ofrecer consejos o tips y animarme. Esas citas con mi coach me ayudan a rendir cuentas e me dan ímpetu para seguir adelante con mi plan.

¿Tienes un coach o mentor? ¿Tienes un plan de desarrollo personal?

Si tienes alguna pregunta acerca de esto, por favor avísame. Creo que es importante conocer  y trabajar en nuestras fortalezas – así tenemos más gozo y productividad en nuestra vida… y ¡ofrecemos más gracia y apreciación a otros!

know your strengths

This week, I had an opportunity to work through various assessments that help identify my abilities. Myers Briggs (ESTJ), StrengthsFinder (Achiever, Learner, Input, Focus, Relator or Includer), Birkman, DISC (high I), SHAPE, and Spiritual Gift tests are just some of the resources available for greater personal awareness. They are also helpful for analyzing group or team dynamics. I appreciate these tools for continual growth.

Do you know what your strengths are?

I have been through many of these assessments through the years; some of the tests have been re-taken with very similar results each time. The atmosphere was not always the same however. In some past occasions, the profile results felt like a curse; they brought judgement and accusation from team members; they gave credence to team conflict but no hope. This time, it was encouraging to look at the results, fun to compare with my team, helpful to consider how we can work together and compliment each other on projects and tasks. I think I have matured over the years and can accept myself and appreciate others more.

Have you ever been misunderstood or criticized because of your strengths? Do you appreciate the differences in others?

The facilitator this week offered this encouragement; she explained that the profile was similar to one spoke of an umbrella, helpful to support understanding, but unable to offer a complete framework of identity. Although it is useful to know my strength areas, I may sometimes be called to work out of my weak areas also. My attitude and flexibility when that happens say a lot about me (my character) also. And while building on my strengths is strategic, I cannot neglect my weak areas or use them to excuse irresponsibility or lack of results.

What are you doing to develop your strengths? Are you aware of your weak areas and their effect on others?

I have found it really helpful to have a coach or mentor who helps me develop a plan to build my strengths. I choose one or two strong areas for further growth and one weak area. Next, I identify specific things that I can do to work on those areas. Sometimes it is helpful to consider any root causes that may have influence. My coach reviews my plan, checking to see that it is realistic, and then meets regularly with me to check on my progress, offer tips/advice, and encourage me. Those coaching appointments give me accountability and impetus to move ahead with my plan.

Do you have a coach or a mentor? Do you have a plan for personal development?

If you have any questions about this, please let me know. I believe that it is important to know and work out of our strengths – we have more joy and productivity in our life… and offer more grace and appreciation to others!